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Sometimes God Throws You a Bone.

There was a moment in my life when things took a very dramatic turn. It only took four words, but those four words would forever change the trajectory of my life. The words that changed my life were:

“You are having twins.”

Spoken to me 8 weeks into my pregnancy, it was a moment that caught me off guard. Wasn’t even on my radar. Similar to buying a pair of jeans and finding that there is a winning lottery ticket in the pocket. Never in your wildest dreams would you imagine there to be a winning lottery ticket in a new pair of jeans. Never in a million years did I think I would have twins.

For the next several months I imagined every future scenario as best I could.  How would my older son react when he had to share the spotlight with not one baby but two? Would we need a triple stroller for all three kids or would a double stroller suffice?

After they were born and as the months went by, I thought of new problems in the future. How do I feed both babies at once? What would it be like when they were walking? Will they wake each other up in the middle of the night? Should I put them in the same class in kindergarten? How will we afford two years of three kids in college?

There are moments when the anxiety of the future is overwhelming.

But there are also moments when an anticipated issue isn’t even an issue. You receive mercy when you thought you were going to face a battle. And you realize that God has just thrown you a bone.

My bone came in the form of a child who potty-trained himself.  He decided one day that he didn’t want to wear diapers and basically switched cold turkey to underwear. In a few weeks he was sleeping through the night in underwear. The kid rarely has an accident. And when he does, it’s so shocking and disturbing to him that he’s determined to never let it happen again.

I was stressed about potty training. I was dreading washing twice the amount of clothing and cleaning up twice the number of accidents around the house. But now I only have to deal with potty training one child.  I can do that. I’ve done that once before.

I think it’s important to acknowledge the good that God does in our lives so that when things don’t go well we can remember the times God provided. If I can remember this about God I can count on the fact that more mercy will come my way someday. When my anxiety of the future overwhelms me I can remember the time when God took over the burden of potty training twins. When I remember that, I remember that God loves me and wants the best for me. God wants me to see my children as a blessing not a burden. God is greater than my biggest problem.

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

Matthew 11:28-30 (New Living Translation)