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How High Are The Pedestals In Your Life?

In college, I made a rule to never date someone I had a crush on but didn’t really know.  I did this because I had a habit of having one conversation with a guy and immediately developing a crush on him. I then proceeded to put him on a very high pedestal based on the assumptions I had about him. I would have one conversation with a guy  and during my quest to find out more about him, I usually filled in the blanks with what I thought he was like.  So when I thought about my crush, it usually went something like this:

“He’s so awesome.  I noticed today that he left class early.  I bet he is going home this weekend to visit his sick grandmother in the hospital.  Before he gets out-of-town, he must needs to stop by and say good-bye to the 8-year-old boy that he mentors.  He’s probably also making a few sandwiches to have available incase he sees any homeless people on his way.”

By the time I actually got to know the guy, he always seemed like such a dud because I had placed unrealistic expectations on him.

I find myself doing this a lot.

I’ll have one conversation with a mother and assume that she’s got it all together and is the perfect mom. I read a book that I agree with and suddenly that author holds the answer to all of life’s problems. I’ll meet someone in my career field and after seeing one project they worked on, I’ll elevate them to the best designer in the world.

The problem with creating all these pedestals is that eventually a person will fall.  The public figure that everyone thought was the real deal will make a mistake.  The coworker you thought was a creative genius will miss the mark completely on a project. The friend you thought would never let you down, will disappoint you.

When we worship other people we will be disappointed.  Eventually we can grow weary and wonder if anyone is really worthy of our trust. It’s not that we should never trust other people, but we need to be cautious about placing anyone on a pedestal that they are destined to fall off. Nobody is perfect. We need to stop believing that people are.

I’m thankful that there is a God who is perfect and worthy of my complete trust. I take comfort knowing that God is true to God’s word and is unchanging. I completely believe that my disappointments with God are not because God is imperfect but that I am. Knowing that God loves me despite my mistakes helps me extend grace to others when they dissatisfy me.