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Throwback Thursday: What is Family?

It’s Throwback Thursday again, though I’m beginning to think I should change the name to “Deep Thoughts From a Clueless College Student.” But since Throwback Thursday is shorter and a bit catchier, let’s stick with that.

[Modern Day Susan commenting]

September 2, 2002 [My 20th birthday, seems I was taking this one a little better than my upcoming birthday.]
11:56 AM

What is a family? I started thinking about this yesterday while spending the day with a friend’s family in the Poconos. Isn’t it interesting to watch other families be together? It’s so weird watching a bunch of people who all look similar sit around a room and talk. They know things about each other that other people don’t. They have a history together.

Sometimes I forget the feeling of a nuclear family. I am fine with my parents’ divorce, honestly, it doesn’t bother me. But there is something about having a mom and a dad together doing stupid things like riding a car together that I miss. I can’t remember the last time my mom and dad were in the same car. This is silly for most of you I know [well at least I could recognize my odd train of thought at the time...], but when you get so used to a life different than that, when you are so used to your dad living in one place and your mom living in another, you forget that at one time, they used to live together.

So while thinking about my family and how much I missed that feeling of being together, I realized that I have a different kind of family at school. I consider my good friends to be sort of a family. The ones that see me when I haven’t showered or brushed my hair and don’t even give me a second glance. These are my girls. We make dinner together, we pick on each other, we tell the truth to each other even when we dont want to hear it. I don’t have any sisters, but I think that this is what it feels like to have them. The day trip yesterday got me thinking how lucky I am. Two of my favorite people riding in a car down to Pennsylvania. We didn’t have awkward pauses when no one was talking, we didn’t have to watch what we said. The whole day I could not get over how lucky I was to have such great people in my life.

This continued this morning when I was awakened by a blindfold being put around my eyes by these same girls. They then changed me out of pajamas, tied my wrists together and took me to breakfast. [If memory serves me correctly, I believe I was allowed to take the blindfold off once we arrived at the restaurant.] Seriously it was the best birthday morning ever. They didn’t even have class this morning but I did and they woke up extra early to take me out before I had to leave. [That is love, am I right college students?] Seriously, these are great girls.

“The best kind of friend is one you can sit on a porch with and swing with, never saying a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you ever had.” [I didn't cite this quote in the original post. Apparently I felt the quotations marks were citation enough. I have since googled it to discover that the author is unknown. So there you go.]

[Stay tuned next week as we get one step closer to college Susan totally losing it after finding out that her ex-boyfriend has a new girlfriend. But I'm jumping ahead. We still have more posts of me convincing myself that I've moved on, though I am pretty disgusted with the dating pool I've jumped back into.]



I love this post :) I very fondly remember us kidnapping you and taking you to breakfast – good times! I think it was Manos that we went to- right? And yes- we did let you take the blindfold off when we got to the restaurant.
Miss you!

Susan Ward

It was Manos. Can you believe that was 10 years ago already?